Therapist Explains What’s Behind “I’m Okay”


Mental health problems should not put you in a state where you only proceed in life because you think you have to. Life is a gift, and your condition shouldn’t have to be the cause of your unhappiness, anxiety, and other emotional problems. Unfortunately, no matter what other people say and despite how much they positively try to create an impact, there is still a part of you that wants to keep everything inside the box. Thus, there’s the “I’m okay” phrase that you know you’re used to. But what exactly is behind that?


Struggle That Silently Kills Confidence, Self-Worth, And Emotional Resilience

There is entirely nothing wrong with telling everyone that you are okay. Of course, when you are emotionally and mentally healthy, you are confidently okay inside and out. And despite dealing with uncertainties in life, you know you can handle it better because you understand balance and overall stability. However, the moment you tell yourself that you’re okay when you know you are not creating a different level of approach in handling challenges. It connotes a negative progression of lies, denial, and untruthfulness towards yourself.

Telling yourself “I’m okay” but still feeling empty and lonely inside destroys your ability to see your worth. It kills your confidence and makes you lose track of emotional resilience. Telling yourself, you’re okay even if you know you are hurting inside hinders you from understanding yourself better. It blocks you from overall development and makes you stop finding yourself’s true purpose. It traps you in a space where you won’t be able to help yourself recovery from whatever it is that you’re emotionally and mentally going through.


Fear, Worry, And Avoidance Of Becoming Someone Else’s Burden 

It’s entirely understandable that you think about your struggles as yours alone. As much as possible, you want to deal with your condition to prove that you are strong enough to deal with complicated things independently. Apparently, when you say “I’m okay” because you intend not to let anyone get involved with what you are dealing with, soon enough, you’ll get drown in self-pity. The more you think about the possibility of you burdening people will create an intense feeling of judgment towards those who truly want to help.

Your fear and worries of harming others are unreasonable. Just because you do not want them to carry the burden of your mental and emotional problem, it does not mean that you should lie about what you truly feel. Of course, you will try your best to get better, and you’ll push harder to suck it all up so that you won’t feel the need to ask others for help. However, consequences can arise. Not only do you deprive yourself of emotional intelligence, but you also take away other people’s opportunities to learn about your condition.

Mental And Emotional Suffocation That Grow Overtime

“I’m okay” goes with the truth of “not being entirely okay.” For some reason, you get accustomed to saying those words to convince yourself that you got no real problems to deal with. But in reality, the waves of loneliness are pulling you back to the isolated surface where there’s no hope and full of sadness. You may lie about the whole thing, but soon enough, you will find yourself complaining and hating life and everything in between. Constantly telling yourself that you’re okay even if you’re not can be pitiful. And instead of the action helping you make your way through your dilemma, you only wallow away feeling sorry for yourself.

Self-talking and saying “I’m okay” despite not getting a hold of the mental and emotional weight is comparable to beating yourself up while currently weak and bending on the floor. It’s not healthy, not acceptable, and not entirely going to create a difference. It would only make you fall into the idea that your emotions are not valid.



Admit that there are things you can’t do, and you have to let go of the idea that you can be better alone because you can never fight those mental and emotional battles on your own. Accept that you are not that strong enough to handle everything. Be true to yourself. You know that the constant pep talks with your inner self will not work because you genuinely understand your need for help. Stop pretending that you are okay because you know you’re not. It’s okay not to be okay. The world is never flawless, so you don’t have to deal with uncertainties. It is about time that you stop saying “I’m okay” and consider changing it to “I need help.”

Given that these conditions are currently haunting you, you have to realize that your mental and emotional weakness does not define who you are. Think about it. Deeply evaluate your thoughts and emotions. After that, ask yourself if you are genuinely okay.