Divorce can turn your world upside down in an instant. Whether you like it or not, separating from the person you love is going to make your entire world crumble down. It hurts to let go of someone whom you thought would become a significant part for the rest of your life. Getting your heart broken is a miserable feeling. As such, you need to think of effective ways on how you could immediately bounce back from a separation.
Read the five practical ways that you must practice starting today:
Never Beg The Other Person
“While divorce may be necessary and the healthiest choice for some, others may wish to try to salvage whatever is left of the union.” Donna M. White, LMHC, CACP said. However, what you need to think and understand right now is the fact that there is a reason why you parted ways with your ex-husband. The relationship did not work for a particular reason. Remind yourself of the root cause of the divorce so that you could avoid getting down on your knees to beg your ex to take you back. Never give him the power to manipulate you. Always keep in mind that asking someone to love you again is a great insult to yourself.
Find A New Passion
The only way to forget your ex-lover is to keep yourself busy with a new passion. Look for a new interest or hobby. Give yourself an opportunity to explore the world. For example, do something that you have always wanted to do since you were young. It could be as small as joining a painting class or enrolling for a baking workshop. You could also start traveling the world. All these things will bring new happiness into your life.
Hang Out With Friends
Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D reminds everyone tp “Bring the right people into your life.” Now is the time to reconnect with old friends and loved ones. Check your phone book and identify the persons whom you have not talked to in a long time. Have the courage to call them and to check how they are doing. Another option is to invite some workmates or friends to hang out with you. You can start by asking them to have dinner with you. If there are more time and resources, feel free to ask them for a weekend getaway or trip abroad. Do whatever makes you happy.
Do Not Look For A Rebound
Finding someone who would only relieve the emotional pain in the meantime is never a good idea. You will just end up causing pain to yourself. At the same time, you could also hurt the other person. What you can do is to give yourself a chance to move on at your own pace. Do not rush into getting into a relationship for the sole reason of escaping your problematic past. Otherwise, you will only end up making things worse for everyone. Wait for the right time to fall in love again. It will eventually come when you are ready for it. Trust the process.
“Divorce is not something that should never be entered into lightly. It means an end to that relationship and the breakup of a family, which can be greatly traumatizing to the children of that marriage.” Jennifer Baxt, LMFT, LMHC said. Remember that there is no easy way to move on from a failed relationship. It will hurt in the beginning, but you will soon understand why it had to happen that way. Believe that things are going to get better.