Staying in a relationship or marriage is always a choice. With all the temptations and doubts in this material world, keeping a marriage becomes challenging. Some couples struggle in saving their marital union because of infidelity, domestic violence, and other matrimonial woes. Nowadays, cheating has become apparent and prevalent in many marriages. This is why you have to be extra careful when it comes to your married life.
“Cheating in a marriage or other committed relationship is so destructive that about 50% of the time the couple breaks up.” Dave Stacho LMHC said. In this article, we are going to point out some of the signs that indicate your husband is having infidel relations. Here are some of the “red lights” to watch out for:
He Becomes Secretive
One of the basic foundations of a healthy marriage is trust. Being honest means that both spouses must learn how to give updates about their daily lives and to share relevant information with each other. Once you notice that your loved one has started keeping secrets from you, then that is a good sign that he may be cheating. However, just because he has secrets does not mean that he is already guilty of being an infidel. It is still best to talk to him first before making any assumptions.
He Lies About The Little Things
Have you noticed that your partner starts telling a lie about the small stuff? Does he lie about the time he goes out of work or having appointments during the weekends? If yes, then he could be seeing someone else. Keep in mind that there is no excuse for being a liar. Come to think of this: If he can lie about the little things, it is highly possible that he is also lying about having an affair. Be vigilant when it comes to everything he tells you. A reminder from Katrina Bilhimer, Ma, LMHC, “Something that is not gender specific but is worth mentioning is that in almost all cases of marital infidelity, something is wrong in the marriage. Either the husband or the wife is unhappy and likely both.”
He Gets Mad Easily
Does your husband get upset easily whenever you ask questions? Is he always mad every time you inquire about the things he does? The acting offensive could be your partner’s defense mechanism. Sometimes, he makes sure that he acts dominant so that you would have second thoughts in approaching him about the problem. When this happens, the smartest thing to do is just to let him act that way. Avoid having conversations with him because it will only make the situation worse.
He Pushes You Away
When was the last time you got intimate with your husband? Do you still go out on dates? Are you still having romantic times together? If the answer is in the negative, then prepare yourself for the possibility that he may be cheating on you. Remember that a partner who still loves you will do everything he can to make you feel happy. Once your spouse does acts that push you away from him, it is a clear sign that he no longer has an interest in protecting or caring for your feelings. The more he tries to drive you away from him, the higher probability there is that he has a mistress.
Discovering that your husband cheated on you is heartbreaking. It would feel like someone ripped your heart apart. Remind yourself that you matter and you do not deserve to suffer. You need to move forward and get past this painful happening. “Recovering from an affair is not impossible, but it takes a lot of work. It takes commitment and a willingness to forgive and move forward.” Donna M. White, LMHC, CACP said.